In brief, anger management consists of knowing how to recognize when and why you get angry and how to control your emotions, along with new ways to respond when confronted with anger-triggering stimuli, or anger triggers.
The term “anger management” became popular in a discussion about 15 years ago with the Adam Sandler film of the same name. Many tabloids report when hot-headed celebrities, from Chris Brown and Shia LaBeouf to Mel Gibson and Kayne West, attend court-ordered anger management sessions.
Frequent and uncontrolled anger is a problem, not just for one’s own health but also for the well-being of family members, coworkers, neighbors, and other people in the community. Some anger management classes involve little more than attending (in person or online) and listening to information passively for a few hours and perhaps completing some homework assignments. These may be enough to meet a court-ordered requirement, but they are not an effective way of dealing with anger problems. Better are anger management Counseling programs, which emphasize repeated practice, rehearsal, and coaching and are more intimate, intense, and engaging. A typical program, which can be done individually, with a partner, or in a group setting, would be at least 8 to 10 weeks, with progress depending on how much work the individual puts into the process. At the end of the day it was our anonymous friend who was arrested that day and charge with Assault. Now you may be reading this and saying to yourself that that is not fair, but what would have occurred if Anon had kept his cool and not lashed out? He would likely have watched the officers remove the ladies from his store and he could continue with his life. Mr. Anonymous wound up doing 4 months of classes because of this. Luckily it was her first arrest and the charge was expunged from his record, because he would have an extremely difficult time landing a job with the world Assault on his arrest record. So what can we learn from this situation? Well, it’s obvious that these women figured out the correct button to push on our anonymous friend, and when they did he felt as though not only was he justified but that he was doing the right thing. Unfortunately, the law does not see it that way and only sees his contact with the woman’s hand. Here’s the kicker: the buttons don’t just magically appear. HE PUT THE BUTTONS THERE.
